About Anita
Okay… so imagine a friend is sitting across from you and says:
"There's someone I really want you to meet. I have a feeling you two are going to get along famously."
That's me, I hope.
Your friend continues: "She sees you properly. Not just the polished version you show the world, but the messy, brilliant, trying-so-hard version underneath it all. And instead of flinching, she leans in with curiosity and this quiet, steady belief: you're capable. You just might not believe that yet. And she will help you get there."
Why I started this work
I didn't arrive here through a neat, linear career path. Mine is more of a winding, slightly wild trail through classrooms, communities, coaching spaces, and a fair bit of personal unravelling along the way.
I grew up in a home where emotions could feel unpredictable. My father was undiagnosed ADHD, and walking on eggshells became second nature. So I understand both sides of that dynamic: the ADHD experience itself, and what it is like to be on the receiving end of it.
Later, during perimenopause, I was diagnosed with ADHD myself. That moment cracked something open.
What followed wasn't just learning about ADHD. It was a deep dive into identity, into burnout, into the quiet grief of not having been understood earlier and into the possibility of doing life differently.
At some point in that process, I made a decision:
If I'm going to learn all of this… I'm going to use it to help others too.
And that's how this work began.
My Passions
I am not a one-lane kind of person.
I am endlessly curious about what makes people people.
I love understanding the inner world through things like Internal Family Systems and think of it as all the different "parts" of you finally getting a seat at the table. I love working creatively with drawing, sand trays, tarot cards, imagination, and even shamanic practices. And I love exploring how trauma, ADHD, and lived experience shape the way we show up in relationships.
And then there's the rest of me…
I have lived in seven countries. Spent two years living in a van. Once toured Sweden in a converted camper. I can take wool straight from a sheep and turn it into a finished jumper. I have taught children how to dissect a sheep's eyeball… and also how to make mouse mummies.
There's a thread here, even if it looks delightfully chaotic: I learn by doing. I live fully. And I bring all of that richness into my work.
How I work
If you are expecting rigid methods and one-size-fits-all advice, I am probably not your person.
If you want someone who can help you understand yourself and your relationship in a way that actually lands, then yes. This is where I shine.
I blend ADHD coaching and practical tools with trauma-informed work, positive psychology, and deep, metaphor-rich exploration. My favourite way to explain things is through images and stories. Internal Family Systems becomes a way of meeting the different parts of you. A sand tray becomes a map of your inner world. A tarot card might open a door you didn't know was there.
It's thoughtful. It's creative. And it goes deeper than surface-level fixes.
My work with couples
I specialise in working with couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent.
These relationships often carry extra weight: misunderstandings, mismatched communication styles, emotional overload on one side, shutdown on the other.
What I do is help you both step out of the "you vs me" dynamic and into something more like: "Let's figure this out together."
I help you understand how each other's brains actually work, learn to communicate in a way that lands, regulate emotions individually and together, and break the old cycles that keep looping. Together, we build something steadier, calmer, and more equal.
Not perfect. Not polished. But real, connected, and alive again.
What I believe
At the heart of everything I do are a few simple, steady beliefs:
People have agency. People are capable. People deserve to be understood, not fixed. Change happens when compassion and insight meet. And growth often begins just outside the edge of what feels comfortable.
(I'll probably gently encourage you to do the thing that scares you. I do it myself, regularly.)
What I am developing now
Right now, I'm deepening my work in creative supervision, supporting other coaches to think, feel, and grow in their practice. I am also providing more training in neurodiversity, bringing my lived experience and practical insight into spaces that want to move beyond tick-box understanding. And I would love to get back to talking with trees and listening to the wind.
And honestly? I light up when I'm working with groups. There's something about shared learning that really suits me.
Where to find me
If you want to get a feel for my voice and my thinking:
I write about relationships and neurodivergence on LinkedIn, a blog called Spark & Steady Couples. On Substack, I let things wander a bit more — personal reflections, thoughts, the occasional ramble that turns out to be surprisingly insightful. Look for The Nomadic ADHD Coach. You can also find me on Facebook, sharing ideas, stories, and the occasional moment of "this felt important."
Every month I hold two Q&A sessions for ADHD UK on a volunteer basis:
ADHD & Couples: for ADHDers and for those who are in a relationship with an ADHDer. I explain, clarify, and give advice for both sides in the relationship.
ADHD for the nonADHDer: for partners of ADHDers, parents of ADHD children (whether adult or child), siblings of ADHDers, and friends or colleagues of ADHDers, who have questions and need answers.
ADHD UK gets no government funding and relies on donations, so if you book tickets, please try to donate a bit. All of it goes to ADHD UK. None of it goes to me.
Where I am headed
Not in a rigid, five-year-plan kind of way. More like a direction of travel.
To keep helping people understand themselves and each other. To keep growing my work in couples coaching, supervision, and training. To keep creating spaces where people feel safe enough to be honest, and supported enough to change. And, very likely, to keep following curiosity wherever it leads next.
A few more things
I am a reader, a writer, a teacher, and very much a forever student. I love psychology, especially positive psychology. I am drawn to the edges of things: shamanism, "witchy" practices, yoga, dance, 5 Rhythms. I skate and rollerblade. I love walking, even if my current knee has other opinions about that.
I have lived a big, textured life. And I bring all of it with me.
If I am honest…
If you're reading this and thinking this sounds a bit like me… or like us — you're probably right.
And if that's the case, I'd really love to meet you.
Something tells me it could be the start of a very good thing.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
Send me a quick email, and I will get back to you within one business day, let’s start building your success story together.
