1:1 Coaching

So… imagine we are sitting in a cafe and you tell me:

"I feel stuck and have been for a while…”

You may be talking about your life, your work, your relationship.

All those things are what you can talk to me about. I provide a space where you can slow down, look at what is actually going on, and begin to find your way forward. Right now it will be online as I am still searching for the place to settle, but at some point I will be inviting you to come see me in person.

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What this space is like

People often arrive feeling tangled. The weft of their past and the weave of their present don’t seem to match.

Same patterns repeating. Same frustrations showing up. The frustration of thinking that surely it doesn't have to be this hard?

Maybe you have tried to fix it before. With willpower (oh ha ha, as willpower equates with dopamine, that is unlikely to work). With strategies that work for other people (neurotypical people whose brains work differently). With pushing through (goodbye energy, hello burnout).

This is different.

We starts with understanding, with awareness. How your brain works. What drains you, even if you're good at it. What actually matters to you beneath all the expectations (and this takes time to figure out).

And then, from there, things begin to shift. Not overnight, but steadily. You start to feel calmer. Your relationship feels stronger and you communicate more and understand each other better. Life feels less stressful.

What makes my approach different

I don't do one-size-fits-all coaching.

Everything is shaped around you. Your life. Your capacity. The things that you struggle with at this time in your world.

Some sessions might be practical and grounded, looking at challenges and finding ways through them. Others might be more reflective, exploring patterns, beliefs, or the parts of you that haven't had much space before. I might ask you what type of playing you did as a child.

I often work with ADHD and AuDHD adults and couples, people navigating burnout or late diagnosis, those who look "fine" on the outside but feel stretched thin underneath, and anyone ready to understand themselves more deeply and who wants to figure out what they truly value and what they do only because society tells them they should do so.

And I bring in a mix of ADHD coaching, practical tools, trauma-informed awareness, shamanic practice, positive psychology, and creative approaches like metaphors, parts work, and imagination. Lots of imagination and stories, as that is where you access your subconscious.

Borrow my skills for a while and see what happens.

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What you might begin to notice

I am not pretending that you will immediately have a perfect life. No one’s life is perfect. But you will start to notice things like:

"I feel like I understand how my brain works now."

"I can actually communicate what I need."

"I didn't realise how much I've been masking… and I'm starting to let that go."

"Just because I'm good at something doesn't mean I have to keep doing it."

"I feel… kinder towards myself."

And perhaps the biggest one: "I can change things. I actually have agency here."

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What people have said

  • “It's about guiding your own thoughts and coming to your own conclusions, by gently challenging your beliefs and what you think to know to be "true".”

  • “I think it's helped me realise more about the things I find interesting and what I find draining even though I may be good at it. I don't think I had thought too much before about things I am good at also being draining but as a concept that's been helpful - just because I am good at something, it doesn't mean I have to do that thing all the time.”

  • “Very down to earth, practical, and addresses problem areas from the start.”

  • “Anita is very wise. She has learnt so much through her own ADHD journey. She is that beautiful combination of someone with ADHD, who also has navigated successfully the neurotypical world, has high executive functioning, and is able to act as a bridge between the two. Learning from Anita is a wonderful experience - fun (expect lots of laughter), informative, kind, respectful and intelligent.”

The way I work with you

My one to one coaching is fluid and flexible. There is no set structure or programme to follow.

I liken it to walking alongside someone who listens, helps you untangle what feels like a knot, offers tools that fit your life, and nudges you towards the things you might be a little scared to face. I will probably ask you questions you have never thought about.

"There is something about coaching with you that felt like, I don't know if this makes sense, but a bit like going on a bear hunt. And that I had somebody in gumboots next to me kind of going through it, not just around it and over it and shying away. And it turned out, you know, there's some honey to be found at the end."

If you're wondering whether this is for you

If you feel stuck… if you are tired of repeating the same patterns… if you think that surely there must be a different way of living, but you can't see it… then this might be a really good place to start.

You don't need to have it all figured out. You don’t even need to know what you want to get out of coaching.

You just need the willingness and courage to look at yourself, your relationship, and your life and be willing to make the changes that are needed.

If that sounds like something you need right now, I think we might get along beautifully.

Ready to take the first step?

You may have a diagnosis or you may suspect that you are ADHD. Or you may have a partner who is (or suspect they are) ADHD.

Book a free introductory call and come and talk with me to see if I can help.

FREE 30 minute Intro Call

1:1 session (£100)

Access to Work funding accepted