When the body calms

When you arrive in a place

where your body feels safe

and your spirit rejoices,

your  whole being calms down

Your nervous system

goes into its calm and connected mode

feels peace

and is no longer on the hamster wheel

At first it feels strange

and scary

but then rashes disappear

life slows down

clarity appears

you find that you can sit and do nothing

without that urge to do something, anything

Spirit rejoices

Soul feels home

The land welcomes you back to mother earth

and you start talking to her

Busy-ness hides our true self

Fear keeps us on the hamster wheel

What happens if you let go?

The fear is real and the stories of disaster are everywhere

When burnout feels close

we are told to increase our self care

as if it is the cure when we are overwhelmed or at our end

but what is self care?

Maybe it is not having baths and massages

Maybe it is finding what gives you joy

What calms your mind

It may not be candles and gregorian chants

Maybe for you it is rock music at its loudest

Maybe it is smelling flowers

Maybe it is being in a night club

Maybe it is sitting by the sea

Or surfing on the waves

Maybe it is hugging your child

To find what gives you joy

Think back to your childhood

What did you do that made time disappear?

That gives you the key

When each of you is on that hamster wheel

and each is tired

and close to overwhelm

your nervous systems talk together

and go into self destruct mode

Right then it is even more important

that each of you finds your joy separately

and that you find the joy of the two of you together

think back to when you first met

what did you do together

that made the world disappear?

When your relationship was in its infancy

what made it grow?

Find that anew or find something new

and fan that flame

the spark is still there

Where can you be

that makes both of you feel calm

where both are at peace

find those places:

Art galleries

Walks in nature

Going camping

Going dancing

Festivals

Watching the stars together

A picnic on the beach

Or in the garden

Sending you wings

and warm wishes