Touchstones - Sacred Space in your Relationship

When sacred space is mentioned we usually think about spirituality or ‘woowoo’ activities. We don’t tend to associate it with ourselves and we definitely do not associate it with relationships, and yet it is vital for both. It is the practice that holds us in the present long enough to anchor ourselves. It is that ritual that sets us up for the day. It is the touchstone for our relationships.

Sacred space does not mean that you have to dedicate a room in your house to meditation or that you need to spend hours every day on a spiritual practice. Most of us struggle to find time to relax, and the thought of adding to an already full day would pull us further away from sacred space instead of bringing us closer.

Sacred space, like so many things, is different for everyone. For me it means reading my tarot cards each day before work, so that I am in the ‘correct’ very present frame of mind when I start working. It means a dance routine after a difficult client session with loud music in order to let go of who they are and get back to being just me, so that I can effectively and empathetically work with the next client. It means my little wooden plate on which I put my nature finds after a walk or a visit to the beach. It is lighting the palo santo stick when I need to pull my edges back in and centre myself. It is also the ritual act of filling my Moka pot with the right amount of water and coffee, screwing the top back on, putting it on the stove and watching it boil. That action of mixing water, earth, and fire first thing in the morning is the first moment of the day where I consciously connect to the day.

In relationships sacred space are those moments where you both let go of the events of the day and focus on the two of you. It might be an early morning 5 minute check in. It might be a connecting hug when you get home from work. It might be that talk you have over dinner each evening. In old films I often see people sitting on their porch, watching the sunset together. That is an example of sacred space.

Sacred space is what punctuates the day, the week, the month, the year. It is what keeps us connected. There is a reason why people historically went to church every week. It was a commitment to that sacred space. I am asking you to make a similar commitment to your relationship.

Warm wishes,